By Elayne Savage, PhD
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I’m waiting for the last remnants of this past year to finally wash away. Waiting for it to be replaced by the new decade – chock-full of possibilities.
I often piggyback on news events when I’m writing these blogs. But lately I’m finding recent events uncomfortably dark and depressing. I’ve blogged recently about how folks seem to think they are being given permission to act out in volatile, aggressive, threatening and scary ways. Does it seem to you, too, that there is more than usual violence lately?
(Giving Permission - A Double-Edged Sword)
So I’ve been struggling with what I want to write for this blog. I started several blog drafts but I decided to file each of them away for another time.
However, I do know I want to write about something positive, about the promising world of new possibilities for this new decade.
My professional speaking colleague Mark Susnow has over the years observed many wondrous aspects of possibilities in his blog: www.inspirepossibility.com.
Many times I find myself re-reading Mark’s invitations for opening up to possibility. These ideas have helped me get through some pretty tough times – especially when I'm feeling sorry for myself.
Mark is a professional speaking colleague who I have known for many years and whose ideas I very much respect. We lost a great thinker when, on July 17, 2019, on he died suddenly.
With “a magical world full of possibilities waiting for you to enter” in this new decade, I'd like to share Mark’s wisdom with you . . . From Mark Susnow’s Blog www.InspirePossibility.com
The Possibility Paradigm
Mark Susnow
From www.InspirePossibility.com
April 2017
"In this paradigm, waking up each day, excited, with a smile on our face-even with all of the loose ends and uncertainty, is what real success is. The breakthrough then becomes the shift from the physical world of accomplishment and achievement, to an inner world of being and wonder.
While most of us would like to become more successful in the world, that by itself, won't fulfill us. Lightening up and enjoying each day to its fullest, including the ups and downs, the twists and turns, and ebb and flow of life's unfolding mystery, is what brings us alive. And isn't that what enlightenment is about - lightening up.
The paradox is that when we stop resisting the flow of life's evolutionary process, not only do we experience the same or greater levels of material success, we enjoy ourselves in the process of creation. We also discover possibilities we never knew existed. We don't fear or obsess about the inevitable "loose ends" because we know we have what it takes to handle and thrive in these new challenges and opportunities.
Once we emerge into the new paradigm, the not knowing what's next, can become an exciting process of discovery. With a sense of being and wonder emerging into its full glory, a glory beyond anything you've yet experienced, you notice as you look more deeply and reflect upon your life, that events which at one time seemed random, are all interconnected preparing you for this moment.
Yet there's still a great deal you can't explain, and the curiosity to explore and explain it, excites you, propels you. In the process, you keep expanding that edge - at one time a barrier to seeing what's beyond that ridge or beneath the surface of the deep mysterious ocean - to discover that this unknown territory is full of amazing possibilities of your living a life full of joy and wonder.
Your enjoyment and appreciation of life is not dependent on what might happen in the future, but rather on the choice you make over and over again to be happy in this moment, the one that is all there is. When things don't work out the way you had hoped or your expectations weren't meant, rather than judging what happened and its significance in the big picture, you say to yourself, 'THAT'S INTERESTING.'
These powerful words reinforce that you are the creator, the architect of the life you want to live and the person you want to become. What emerges in this evolutionary process is a new "you" who knows that now is the time to soar beyond your self imposed glass ceiling."
You know that if you keep your eyes open and stay curious, there is a magical world full of possibilities waiting for you to enter.
There is no better time than now to enjoy this great adventure, this great mystery called LIFE.
Enjoy the Journey
Mark
© Copyright 2005 Mark Susnow. All Rights Reserved
From www.InspirePossibility.com
April 2017
More from Mark on Possibility:
www.inspirepossibility.com/posts/the-possibility-paradigm/
www.inspirepossibility.com/posts/possibilities/
Thanks, Mark, for introducing me to “a magical world full of possibilities” waiting for me.
Wishing each of you A Very Happy New Decade – full of promise!
Until next month,
Elayne
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